Yes... I said it! I called an object gay!
I also don't see anything offensive with the way I used the phrase. Before you completely write me off, let me explain my point.
First I'd like to point out the disclaimer at the top of this blog and those easily offended not to stop reading now. Secondly I'm not a homophobic, and I accept homosexuals for who they are. Thirdly this blog was written because I've recently been watching old episodes of "Glee" and it really upset me how they made Finn look like the bad guy for being uncomfortable with his new gay bother, without stressing the importance for Kurt to understand and respect that Finn just needed some time and space to adjust to things.
Now, there is a campaign out called "Think before you speak". I do believe in this campaign. I think it is very important to think before you speak. At the same time it's important to understand that there are two types of gay. There are gay people and then there are flaming gay people. My brother is gay. Kurt from "Glee" is flaming gay. My brother did not get picked on in high school. Kurt from "Glee" does.
When I call something "gay" I'm saying "this object is something a flaming gay guy might accessorize with". A rainbow scarf is "gay". Don't get me wrong. I respect those who are offended and don't use the term often, and I'm cautious as to whom I use it with. I'm not going to say it to someone I just met, but my brother and I might go shopping and point out all the gay rainbow scarfs on the shelf! It's kind of like if someone saw something that I would like to accessorize with they might say "that is so JD Kurtz!"
Now it is inappropriate to throw the label on anything and everything you don't like. "OMG fried chicken is so gay!" is a not very cool thing to say and people that say such things have ruined the "That's so gay" comment for people like me who use it properly.
Now with all that said I'd like to point out a new campaign that I think should be created "Think before you are."; For all the Kurt's out there running around in your tight sequin pants being victimized for your flaming gayness. If I walked around my high school dressed like Lady GaGa I'd be picked on a bullied too! It is very important to me to promote anti-bullying, but I also feel it's important to teach people not to egg it on! Kurt doesn't necessarily get picked on for being "gay" he gets picked of for dressing flaming gay.
Am I saying we shouldn't let teenagers express themselves? Of course not! But they need to understand that there are going to be consequences for their actions. Just as a girl with big boobs, wearing a shirt that practically completely exposes them, would most likely get labeled "easy" while guys(and some girls) can't keep their eyes off of them; gay boys who dress a little too much like it's Halloween on any given day need to know they are going to get attention for it and sometimes it's not always what they are looking for.
Let me stress again that I'm in no way promoting bullying. I'm not defending it at all. I really do wish we lived in a world where everyone could dress how they like without being judged or labeled for it, but that's not the world we live in.
It's not a fair world, and it sucks, but this is what we've got. How you live in it is up to you.