According to Nanny 911 "NO! is a heavy word. It should only be used when something is completely inflexible or where there is no imminent dander. Unfortunately though, NO! is such a relexive word. Most people don't realize how many times they say it and the impact it has.
Think about it: How would YOU feel if you excitedly said to your partner, 'honey, I was thinking maybe we could...' and he said 'NO!' before you could even finish your sentence. That's how your kids feel every time you shut them down with a no."
I'm not sure who in the world came up with the idea of comparing our children to our partners, but in my opinion that's the silliest and weirdest thing I've ever heard. Am I really supposed to put my six year old daughter in the same category as my husband??
When I was little my parents said no to me all the time. I just had to deal with it, and if I was brave enough to ask "why?" it was always followed by "because I said so!"
I'm not sure where this whole "the family is a democracy trend" started, but good thing for my kids I'm not one to go with the flow of things. When I was growing up my family was a hierarchy, my dad was king and my mom was queen, and it still is today.
I was not "elected" as these kid's mother/aunt. I was placed there by GOD! You have to prove worthy of a vote or say in how things are run.
When a parent/teacher/guardian says no kid's shouldn't be allowed to "debate" it or "discuss" it. Their job as a child is to "respect" it.
Since I'm a self-proclaimed expert on child discipline mostly in part due to the fact that my kids are amazing I think I should write a book about it or something. I currently have seven children in my house ranging in age from 18months to 10 years and I'm able to sit down and write this blog with out interruption...
Why is this?
Because I'm capable of "just saying NO!"